Thanks Bob. Certainly sounds like the sort of conclusion I was coming to. I can imagine there was a real sense of guilt among the crew who'd survived. Whether he was part of a group who just got on a boat unknown, or whether he was ushered onto one by officials and was then the subject of scrutiny from the newly-widowed women on
Carpathia I'll probably never know.
The account I have is that sometime in the early 60's (though could just as easily be late 50's) a parcel arrived for him. One of my distant aunts was there at the time and (knowing full-well what it was....he worked on a few ships including Olympic just before Titanic) asked "what's that then?" He replied it was a parcel from the Titanic fund, to which she said something along the lines of "oh, you were on Titanic?!" Again, she (and the rest of the family) knew full-well he was, but he never ever spoke of it, until that one day. He never spoke of it again as I understand it, but he recalled jumping into the water and passing out from the cold. He then said he woke in a boat.
He actually died of Bronchitis. He used to get it every Winter, and the rest of the family at the time put it down to likely being something to do with that night.
In an interesting twist I only learned over the weekend, I have a second relative from the Titanic, but on my father's side of the family. He was also a fireman, and from what I've found since the weekend it looks like there's a good chance he was also in boat 9. The two families wouldn't be joined until the late 1970's, and there were two of them possibly sitting side by side!
The other chap's name was George Terrill Thresher. I can't find as much on him, and I believe he died at sea in the 30's.
Cheers
Rich