Stacie, I appreciate that your post was written out of a spirit of conciliation, but I have to disagree with you. I believe you underline one of the points that Kate made in her brilliant post - that no one wants to call a spade a spade in this matter because they don’t want to be seen to be adversarial. What you see as aggression is actually a keen sense of extraordinary frustration. This is isn’t the first time the board has been subjected to this blatant game playing and manipulation, and more than a few people are utterly fed up to the gills with it - hence the bluntness of the posts we’ve seen in this thread.
I would have commented earlier in support of Randy and Parks’s comments, but after Phil ‘love bombed’ this thread into submission thought it would be rather poor form to reignite it. Teri, however, did that herself with her attempt yet again to claim victimhood status.
A big hole was wedged in my heart, and I was deeply hurt by both of your posts.
I was so gullible to think that no one would come after me on this thread since it was a Titanic reincarnation thread.
Oddly enough, I do not hold anything against you. I still love the both of you very much.
Sniff sniff…more than a whiff of burning martyr in the air there! And this in spite of the fact that she stresses that she is taking responsibility on herself for her own posts and the reaction they inspire. How many times do we have to go through this cycle of Teri issuing abject apologies, and then trundling on in the same manner as before? Her passive/aggressiveness is beginning to wear very thin, as the posts in this thread show. I know Parks, Randy and Andrew quite well - I know none of them bears Teri any form of personal malice, and indeed if anything they have a deep concern for her. Kate I don’t know as well, but I have been very much struck in the short time I’ve been in contact with her by her poise and her clear-sightedness - her ability to cut through to the heart of an issue, as she did in her post above. I also know she’s a warm-hearted, kindly person who has been terribly frustrated by this cyclical nightmare of drama queen posts - that someone like Kate should be driven to voice her concerns as she did in this thread is indicative of how deep the problem is.
I realise even that by posting this I’m giving Teri what she seems to so fervently desire - attention. Whether ‘good’ attention or ‘bad’, she doesn’t care as long as she’s the centre of it. In my own contact with her I’ve gone to some trouble to outline to explain her research options to her, and how, for example, she can investigate her ‘memories’ of past voyages on WSL ships. I had even agreed to undertake to do some of this research for her gratis, until certain slighting comments she made about my work elsewhere caused me to withdraw the offer. I, like the others who have posted here, are willing to consider her claims if she can provide the material to support them. But as Parks has pointed out in other threads, it is extremely offensive for her to draw on the work of other researchers on the one hand while dismissing their knowledge with claims to preternatural knowledge, unsupported by historical fact. Doesn’t it bother you that in this thread she has, without a shred of supporting evidence, attacked the historical reputation of the man she claims to have been in a past life? It certainly disturbs me.
I also believe Randy has some very valid points from the point of view of someone who holds a very profound belief in the doctrine of reincarnation. Teri seems to claim a special dispensation to spout whatever she likes as it is based on her ‘beliefs’. I’ve seen nothing in her posts that indicates any coherent theological system of belief. It’s rather like a person who quaffs a pint of red wine, chews on a loaf of ciabatta, then claims to be a Roman Catholic and offers to show you their marks of stigmata with no understanding of the theological system of belief behind the doctrine of transubstantiation. As with so many others who claim to have been famous in a past life, the religious doctrine of reincarnation strikes me more as a vehicle for their wish-fulfilment fantasies than anything else. I have seen absolutely nothing in her many posts that would lead me to belief that Teri is J Bruce Ismay - quite the opposite, in fact. I’m willing to be persuaded otherwise by something factual, but as time goes on this possibility seems more remote. Teri is of course entitled to believe anything she likes - just as anyone may believe that the earth is flat, the moon is made of green cheese, or that UFOs are probing their bodily orifices (or, if you find these comparisons objectionable, then draw your own from the stock of thus-unproven far but profoundly held religious doctrines…the seas giving up their dead on Judgement Day, Resurrection, Immaculate Conception etc). However, in an historical forum she can certainly expect to find herself challenged like any other contributor. The more outlandish her claims (‘Ismay was a sleazy opium fiend!’) the more emphatic the challenge. Her faith in her beliefs does not gain her a special dispensation from this scrutiny.
I realise this is a lengthy post but, as others have pointed out, enough is enough. I like Teri - she seems a personable individual with a lot of spark, and I’m sure that she can be quite engaging and charming when she desires to be so. But this isn’t the first time a thread has undergone this sort of corruption - it’s like a rot infesting the board. I applaud those who in this thread who have taken a stand against it - risking, as they did so, the charge of ‘aggression’.
While I disagree with you, I appreciate your sincere desire for peace and goodwill. I hope that is what we ultimately have, but some of us are not willing to sacrifice our own principles on research methodology to get it.
With warm regards,
Inger